我不接受你的答案。

I believe that.. For a r/s to work out, there must be communication, understanding and accommodation. If one of them is missing, there is bound to be some problems, both minor and major, that might occur.

I think humans are selfish in nature, thinking and taking actions for their own benefits. All these thoughts or actions may not be intentional. Sometimes i actually see ppl doing some things that i deemed to be selfish, but the person may not even realize it. They are being selfish subconsciously, trying to protect themselves.

I don't deny I'm selfish at times too. Wanting ppl to love me more than i do to them. If the love i gave to the person is more than the person giving to me, I'll start to act like some hay-wired woman. Irrational and hysterical...

But i don't realize it myself at times. I need someone to tell me. I'm always willing to learn and change for the person i love. I believe ppl tend to be irrational when they start to care too much about the other party... 因为爱所以患得患失.

Actually, a little of reassurance from the other party will be an effective remedy to this problem. A simple hug or just a "i care about you too" will be enough. However, in reality, sometimes things as simple as these seemed like an impossible task to carry out.

Character? Ego? Ignorance?

I don't know. Only you know the answer.